
Like I always do, I re-read my last post several times. Partly because I like the way it turned out and partly because the point I made about fully realizing a goal is still relevant (and will be until I fully realize that goal).
Which got me thinking…
A Different Perspective
What if I adopted a different view of all this moving/running/traveling/ adventuring I’ve done the last 35 years? I’ve often complained (to myself and a professional ear) about not finding a ‘home’ – a place where I can put down roots and connect to the people and place. After reading the last post one more time, something dawned on me. Maybe I’ve spent too much time believing that each move was going to be temporary because, well, they have been. And maybe that’s on me for seeing them only that way.
Note: Another aspect is that, over the decades, I have seen more renters (including me) forced into transient lifestyles because of rent increases based on variable ‘market values,’ thereby creating the very instability we’re trying so hard to avoid. Rarely does one rent a place with the expectation of staying long-term, like 10-15 years, anymore. And I realized that is exactly what I’m seeking. Not permanence (no such thing), but S-T-A-B-I-L-I-T-Y.
What if…I decided to view a move to a new place as something that could be stable if I allowed it? By allow, I mean inject some level of stability into the new place? I’ve had a habit of buying used or cheap furniture, figuring why invest in nice things to make a home when I’ll just be packing it up in 12 months anyway. Then it dawned on me: what a negative way to approach a new opportunity to create something.
Now, It Comes To Me…Slowly
At some point after the opportunity to come home opened up, I decided on a different approach. I bought new furniture for this new place because I wanted new. I’m tired of buying someone else’s energy (couches and beds can hold a lot of positive and negative energies). I decided that I wanted pieces that reflect me and my home. Yesterday, I surveyed my new surroundings and took a few moments to take it all in. I realized that my ‘temporary’ mentality had manifested as exactly that with every move over the better part of the last three decades.
Aha…
Change is Good, Right?
Then I began thinking, what if I make a conscious decision to invest in some sense of a stable life? What if I approached this relocation to my new (old) home as a process of bringing some level of permanence (i.e., settling in to a place and making it a home) to my up-till-now gypsy lifestyle? I’m tired of the move-relocate-move-then-repeat cycle. It’s exhausting.
Our attitude, how we perceive situations, problems, even life, can change our behavior if we choose to see it from a different angle. I’m not sure how effective this approach will be for me, but I’m at least willing to give it a try. Are you?
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